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We all know that otaku have a wide variety of fetishes and, over time, have gotten used to discussing and rationalizing them (for more of that, see erodatabaseanimal.tumblr.com). But one thing that doesn't get talked about is how our anime-related fetishes carry over into the real world.

Are you a guy who likes futanari? Do you put something in your ass to simulate being banged by a futa girl? If you're a guy who likes yuri, do you imagine yourself as the girl while you masturbate? Or vice-versa if you're a girl who likes yaoi? (and are you the seme or the uke?)

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Anonymous asked: I've always wondered about my fetish for incest particularly mother/son. It's extended somewhat into the realms of 3d porn and fiction erotica but it's best embodied the almost fertility goddess depiction of a motherly female in doujins. I know I haven't any desire to have sex with my mother. She's simply not attractive to me. I do wonder however, if she were attractive to me, whether I would feel more guilt over this fetish. Is it the taboo aspect that entices or do doujins allow a projection of idealization of the female form that appeals to an ancestral concept of beauty? Perhaps it is all Freudian. I simply try am trying to reconcile how I can have an incestuous fetish without any incestuous thoughts towards my mother.

I’ve thought about this a lot myself, because I similarly have an incest fetish. Mine is less mother-son than brother-sister, father-daughter, or mother-daughter. I definitely don’t want to have sex with my family members (attractive as they all happen to be) but I think that this still may be tied to them.

You know, of course, of the Oedipus complex, which states that men naturally look for women that remind them of their mothers. Sure, I don’t want to bang my mom, but if I think about my sexual preferences, they line up with her pretty well: I like small girls, my mom is only 5 feet tall, I like small breasts, she has small breasts, I like cool girls, she’s ultra-cool. Sometimes I’ve noticed the girls I find attractive being startlingly similar to her.

But that’s only tangentially related here - I think the point is more in an undercurrent of your feelings about your mother or family. Which I will answer with my feelings on why I love sibling incest so much.

My brothers and I are ultra-close. They’re both basically younger clones of me, and we’ve done everything together for our entire lives. So to me, a good relationship is one that’s ultra-close like that. The friends that I hold dear are ones I literally spend time with once a week at least. So when I think about an ideal relationship, I think that ultra-closeness is the best.

Now, remember, that doesn’t necessarily mean I wish I had a sister to fuck. All it means is that when I see a sibling relationship that’s as close as mine, and I see it turn romantic, I feel like I can appreciate it more. I feel like I can have more confidence in the validity of the relationship. I’ve always felt that the stories wherein the sister was gone for most of the brother’s life or is a new addition to the family were comparatively lame, whereas I love the ones that grew up together and achieved that closeness, or in cases where the sister is a loli and the brother is older, where the brother has taken care of her all her life (as I’ve taken care of my youngest brother for all of his life.)

So rather than think about whether your mother is attractive, think about your relationship with her. Are you and your mother close? Do you look for what she has in women? Is there something about the mother-son dynamic that you find admirable? One of the reasons I don’t care for mother-son as much is because the relationship is usually portrayed as totally unrealistic, but in some cases, if it’s done right, I enjoy it. (not a mother, but I loved the older sister from Aki Sora who basically plays to that fetish, because the relationship felt realer.) Just remember that what you find attractive isn’t a direct I-like-mom-so-I-like-moms thing - it’s all subconscious and based on other feelings from your experience.

—Digiboy

Second opinion:

I’m inclined to think, based on “…the almost fertility goddess depiction of a motherly female in doujins.”, that the attraction is more to the mature woman than to the character’s blood relation - though I could be wrong.

As a mother-son incest fan myself, I find that most of my attraction, too, is derived from the girls’ healthy, mature figures and their more self-confident demeanour. Mother-son incest, here, is a fetish of convenience: while I’m mostly ambivalent to the incest fetish itself, it tends to imply a lot of fetishes I actually enjoy. This is similar to the above answerer’s attraction to incest fetishes as a shortcut to stories with characters in extremely close relationships.

My own suggestion as far as self-exploration would be more introspective: ask yourself whether your attraction is to the sexual mother-son relationship, or to the figure of stereotypical mother portrayals in porn.

Importantly, though, neither implies that a fetish for mother-son incest in your pornography says anything about your drives in real life. Even if you do come to the conclusion that what turns you on in porn is the mother-son relationship, even if you put yourself in the son’s shoes when you fantasize, it’s just that - a fantasy. What you’re attracted to in incest porn is, in the end, a fictional construct, and in all likelihood differs a great deal from what a real incestuous relationship would be like.

If you’ve thought about it this much and come to the conclusion that you’re not sexually attracted to your mother, chances are you’re just not sexually attracted to your mother. Sometimes a doujin is just a doujin.

—8c

Third Opinion

It’s certainly not my own fetish but it remains a relatively popular one both in and outside the world of our our fandom. Secondhand anecdotes do seem to support 8c’s idea that it could have more to do with the role than the actual mother.

A friend who worked as a dominatrix once told me that it was rarely the spike-heeled PVC fantasy that you imagine; rather, her costumes usually took the form of either Bo Peep (somewhat tenuously related) or a mother figure, off-brown pantyhose and unsexy apron included. It wasn’t that these clients actually desired a sexual relationship with their mothers, but they did want some sort of protective bosom to both care for and punish them. In this real(?) world scenario, it was usually the rich or high-ranking folks who went in for that particular brand of service, which makes a bit of sense. Perhaps the 2D translation is parallel — you can get mentally tired of protecting all those little moe girls and you just need a mother to take care of things for you.

—Cinco